爱人
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爱人 means "lover" or "the person i love".
In mainland china, it can refer to both husband or wife.
In today's society as to whether it refers to male/female husband or male/female wife, we'll let the speaker be the judge of that.
In mainland china, it can refer to both husband or wife.
In today's society as to whether it refers to male/female husband or male/female wife, we'll let the speaker be the judge of that.
In my society, 爱人 is just the meaning of "spouse". If one want to say lover, the 情人 is the right term. For "husband" , I give your an order by frequency: 她老公(hubby) 她男人(her man) 她爱人(beloved) 她丈夫(husband). For "wife", the order is : 他老婆(?) 他媳妇(housewife? not sure) 他爱人(beloved) 他妻子(wife)。
HTH
HTH
it could be used for both genders,
他是她爱人，她是他爱人，他是他爱人，她是她爱人。 hmm..
他是她爱人，她是他爱人，他是他爱人，她是她爱人。 hmm..
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i think yes。 then you need quantifiers like 一对爱人，or else it would sound a bit literary。
爱人 sounds like the two are much in love in a sense of 恩爱，
while 情人 sounds more suggestive，and 恋人 sounds like something in between。
actually i think in some cases 爱人 could be interchangeable with 情人 or 恋人 though often not。。
爱人 sounds like the two are much in love in a sense of 恩爱，
while 情人 sounds more suggestive，and 恋人 sounds like something in between。
Maybe it's not very necessary, but I may provide another point of view.
In Taiwan, 愛人(爱人 in traditional Chinese) is not used in daily conversation.
We may call the lover "男友(boyfriend)," "女友(girlfriend)," "先生/丈夫(husband),"
"太太/老婆(wife)," depending on the gender and the relationship. We just don't
say 恋人 or 爱人, because it's weird to hear these in daily talks... Words like
these only appear in poems.
In Taiwan, 愛人(爱人 in traditional Chinese) is not used in daily conversation.
We may call the lover "男友(boyfriend)," "女友(girlfriend)," "先生/丈夫(husband),"
"太太/老婆(wife)," depending on the gender and the relationship. We just don't
say 恋人 or 爱人, because it's weird to hear these in daily talks... Words like
these only appear in poems.
Thanks, Cochon. And welcome to the Forum.
Right now, this discussion is too subtle for me. But when I reach a more advanced level in Chinese, I'll return to it. It's useful material.
Right now, this discussion is too subtle for me. But when I reach a more advanced level in Chinese, I'll return to it. It's useful material.
Over here, only daughter-in-laws are addressed as 媳妇. So there is a regional difference in this aspect.
Well, I think it's a very common term in the daily talks in mainland China, but since I've never been to China, and I learned that many people say this in their daily talks only from movies and TV operas, I am unable to assert it's not your situation.
Yes, IMHO, 媳妇 means wife in North China, and means daughter-in-laws in South China.
At least, in HuNan province, 爱人 is the same as "spouse", where it means no romantic thing.
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Honestly, you cannot hear much difference when people speak fast.
Both are acceptable to me. A tone in-between could be most natural.
By the way, I don't think 爱人 is still popular nowadays.
I refer to my wife 我爱人 to my colleagues, they laughed at me since this address is so old-fashioned.
Speaking as one who lived in southeast and southwest China for over 30 years.
爱人 can be applied to husband and wife alike, but it cannot be used in plural. The dictionary says clearly: 爱人：丈夫或妻子。 恋爱中男女的一方。(But practically we don't call one's girlfriend or boyfriend as 爱人, only husband or wife, unless you are being intentionally humorous or poetic )
Never heard of people calling their daughter-in-law directly as 媳妇， it has to be 儿媳妇, 孙媳妇，弟媳妇，etc.
Therefore, to me, 媳妇 is simply a dialectical alternative of wife. (Although the dictionary does say: 媳妇：儿子的妻子, it will be extremely weird for me to hear my father calling my wife as 媳妇）
Another thing is, people in a romantic relationship (especially when they are young and not married) is more referred to as 恋人. （it will be weird to call a married couple 恋人. ）
情人 is now almost always used in an unethical context. The third wheel in a relationship/marriage, the person who you have an affair with.
爱人 can be applied to husband and wife alike, but it cannot be used in plural. The dictionary says clearly: 爱人：丈夫或妻子。 恋爱中男女的一方。(But practically we don't call one's girlfriend or boyfriend as 爱人, only husband or wife, unless you are being intentionally humorous or poetic )
Never heard of people calling their daughter-in-law directly as 媳妇， it has to be 儿媳妇, 孙媳妇，弟媳妇，etc.
Therefore, to me, 媳妇 is simply a dialectical alternative of wife. (Although the dictionary does say: 媳妇：儿子的妻子, it will be extremely weird for me to hear my father calling my wife as 媳妇）
Another thing is, people in a romantic relationship (especially when they are young and not married) is more referred to as 恋人. （it will be weird to call a married couple 恋人. ）
情人 is now almost always used in an unethical context. The third wheel in a relationship/marriage, the person who you have an affair with.
《國語辭典.愛人》大陸地區稱丈夫或妻子。
在我的刻板印像中,「愛人」指配偶, 有濃厚的「革命色彩」。電視裡, 幾乎都是出於共產黨員或受共黨強烈薰陶者的口中。
在我的刻板印像中,「愛人」指配偶, 有濃厚的「革命色彩」。電視裡, 幾乎都是出於共產黨員或受共黨強烈薰陶者的口中。
Well it IS a sterotype indeed.
most people don't say "爱人” anymore except maybe older people.
More people in the north use "媳妇儿“， and more people in the south use "老婆"， and women in both the north and south say "老公”.
More people in the north use "媳妇儿“， and more people in the south use "老婆"， and women in both the north and south say "老公”.
Could you please tell us more about the publisher or the author of your textbook? I would like to test my "stereotype" (see #20).
The book was first published in 1981 (2e édition 1997). The author Philippe Kantor gained his Chinese diploma from the Beijing Language Institute in 1975 and returned to France several years prior to Deng Xiaoping's "拨乱反正" to invalidate the Cultural Revolution. I think the materials in the book reflect his (outdated) experience in China during the cultural revolution.