The source of the confusion is that you are letting the spelling system influence your thinking and not listening to how the language is actually spoken. Thinking of the "soft g" (and corresponding ch-sounds) as one sound is just wrong. It actually covers four sounds. So, you are all right but you are also all wrong at the same time, except for Istriano who said [ʝ] is not used in Dutch. It's just a fact that [ʝ] is used, at times, in Dutch. As we will see below, not having [ʝ] would not only make some Dutch words difficult to pronounce, but it would also leave Southern Dutch and Flemish speakers sounding like they need speech therapy.
In Dutch from the south of the Netherlands and in Flemish accents (that actually say the soft-g, that is), soft-g is pronounced with two points of articulation and two manners of articulation. Click on the link below to see the matrix I have made for this discussion:
Normally, they are all pronounced velar (that's the default, [ɣ] and [x] ),
except in the following situations, where they are palatal:
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[ʝ] before front vowels: that is /i, e, ɛ, y, ø, œ/, the vowels in biet, beet, bed, vuur, deuk and put, respectively. Example: gieter hasʝ
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[ç] after front vowels (the above) if the "g" or "ch" are word final: ex. in gierig the final g is also palatal (but voiceless, because it's word final!)
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[ç] after front vowels if the "g" or "ch" are followed by another consonant. So: lichter is palatal, whereas sigaar is not, even though they are both preceded by an "i" (front vowel)
Some accents of Flemish might say [ɣ] in some places where other accents (such as Limburgish or Dutch Brabantic) might use [ʝ]. However, this is, in general, how the soft-g is said in NL and BE.
This also explains why the soft-g(s) are so hard for foreigners to learn... Whereas students learning a standard Dutch accent (as portrayed in modern media and mo
st commonly from the Hollands/Utrecht) must learn one sound [X] that covers all g/ch sounds regardless of position, students of Flemish or Southern Dutch have to learn how to master, in essence, four distinct soft-g(s), phonetically speaking.
Hope that helps.