Letter: Closing - "Kisses" at the end of an informal letter

Discussion in 'English Only' started by kuleshov, Nov 29, 2005.

  1. kuleshov Senior Member

    Spain Spanish
    I've been told that English people never use the expression "Kisses" to end an informal letter.
    Do you agree?
    You can write XXXXXX meaning kisses, though.
  2. marinax Senior Member

    buenos aires
    español (Argentina)
    "XOXO" is used also.
    personally, i just prefer to write the words.
  3. uinni

    uinni Senior Member

    Italy, Italian
    Actually it is XXX (which also means something else in the web ;) )
    It is due to the fact that the 22nd letter of the greek alfabet ("c") is "pronounced" khi (also chi) in English, so its graphical latin counterpart XXX = X's sounds like khi's -> khises -> kisses :)

  4. E-J

    E-J Senior Member

    Cambridgeshire, UK
    England, English
    Yes, I agree. It's not usual to write "Kisses". An expression such as "Love" or "Lots of love" would be the most common option, at least in British English.

    I tend to sign off letters and e-mails to my loved ones with "xx" - either just after my name, or underneath it.
  5. panjandrum

    panjandrum Occasional Moderator

    Belfast, Ireland
    English-Ireland (top end)
    WOW I never knew that!
    Thanks uinni.

    By the way, you can have as many XXXXXXs as you wish.
    And you can also have as many OOOOOOOs (hugs).
    Often these are written as XOXOXOXOXOXOXO:D
  6. GenJen54

    GenJen54 Senior Member

    Downright Pleasant, USA
    USA - English
    I have seen "hugs and kisses" written out at the end of a very casual letter, and have another friend who closes her correspondence with simply "hugs (written out)."

    The xoxoxoxo is more common, however.

    For more on the subject, you are welcome to go here.
  7. nycphotography

    nycphotography Senior Member

    I do be learnin stuff
    John-Paul Miller, NYC
    Kisses would never be used for a formal letter, and often (in AE at least), it may imply EITHER an intimate OR a parental (familial) tone.

    But that said, Kisses is perfectly acceptable in the right circumstances.
  8. ellas! Member

    Bristol, England
    England, English
    Younger people would put "lots of love" as "loadsa love" sometimes. But yeah. If you just put "love" at the end of the letter, it's fine. Sometimes I'd put just kisses as in: "xxxx" but I don't really do the "oooo"'s anymore.
  9. E-J

    E-J Senior Member

    Cambridgeshire, UK
    England, English
    You're absolutely right, or course, that it's acceptable in a letter to someone you're intimate with; nevertheless, a learner of English should be aware that it's not a standard way of signing off.

    Some languages routinely use the equivalent of "Kisses" to end a letter ("Bisous" in French, "Besos" in Spanish, etc.) but in English, we don't have a tradition of doing so.

    Of course, in reality we're perfectly free to choose to end a letter in this way, and in fact I'm sure most people are usually much more creative and original in the way they sign off :)
  10. Yaya7777 New Member

    Hi, Happy new year!

    I just received an e-mail from my male friend in the UK. He finished his lettre with "Love, (his first name)". Does-it mean he has some sort of affection to me? Or, just as friend? He has many affections to me but he says indirectly all the time.

    Thanks for your reply beforehands.

    Y 007

  11. Tresley

    Tresley Senior Member

    Yorkshire / United Kingdom
    British English
    In the UK it is quite normal to end letters informally (to Mum & Dad, brothers & sisters, aunties & uncles, grandma & granddad, cousins and good friends etc) with.....

    Love from Tresley


    Yaya7777 - you may/might/could be regarded as a 'good friend'. Don't read too much into it! It's just being friendly.
  12. Tresley

    Tresley Senior Member

    Yorkshire / United Kingdom
    British English
    I would only write 'lots of love and kisses' to someone that I was in love with (i.e. wife, fiancée, girlfriend).

    XXXXXX - Is quite normal at the end of informal letters to loved ones in the UK

    XOXOX - I never use this and my family/friends never do this to me either. OXO = gravy in the UK
  13. Yaya7777 New Member

    Thanks. He is my ex fiancé and he is now merried. He loves me actually. He regrets that he got merried with her present wife.
    Just wanted know what it means in your language.


  14. Tresley

    Tresley Senior Member

    Yorkshire / United Kingdom
    British English
    In this case, yes, he does still think of you fondly. If there were NO KISSES (XXX) then it is definitely THE END!
  15. nurdug51 Senior Member

    We are in the year 2010 in the meantime and teenagers write e-mails to each other.
    I'm interested in finding out if something has changed about ending the e-mails (formerly letters).
    Is it common or unusual today to write the word 'Kisses' as a sign-off under the e-mail and then your name?
    I'm sure you would write it to a girlfriend or wife etc. But would a girl write it to her best friend (also a girl) ?

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