'me/my' being late

Discussion in 'English Only' started by novice_81, Jan 16, 2010.

  1. novice_81 Senior Member


    He turns a blind eye to me/my being late every day.

    --- Can I use either "me" or "my"?

  2. Andygc

    Andygc Senior Member

    British English
    It should be "to my being late", but English is for ever changing and in spoken British English you will hear "to me being late" far more often than you will hear "to my being late"
  3. panjandrum

    panjandrum Occasional Moderator

    Belfast, Ireland
    English-Ireland (top end)
    You will find a great deal of discussion on this point in the threads listed at
    gerund possessive.

    You will see arguments for both structures being grammatical, in some contexts, and clear indications that the "... my being late ..." structure is dying out.
  4. novice_81 Senior Member

    Thanks for the fast answers!
  5. e2efour Senior Member

    England (aged 75)
    UK English
    In such phrases the speaker will tend to choose which sounds more natural. The problem (actually I don't think it's a problem at all) is that people differ in what they think sounds natural.

    I don't think you will get a reply which will say that me is wrong and my is right (or vice versa).

    Added: If anyone tries to tell you that me is wrong and my is right, refer them to Language Log March 3, 2009, which points out that the construction has been in used for over 300 years and also gives lots of examples of the use of the possessive (my) and the accusative (me). You can find this on the internet (http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=1200).
    Last edited: Jan 16, 2010

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