Se la pusiste en bandeja de plata


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Se la pusiste en bandeja de plata

The full sentence is 'Se la pusiste en bandeja de plata y tu y yo estamos en al asador.'

This is from episode 82 of the Columbian telenovela Yo Soy Betty La Fea, where the character Marcela uses this metaphor while chastising her friend and colleague Patricia for a mistake that has implicated them both.

My specific question is - why do we use 'se la' in front of the reflexive verb? What gap do I have in my understanding of reflexive verbs and pronouns?

Why would the following attempts to construct the same meaning be incorrect: 'te la pusiste' or 'se la puso' - shouldn't the reflexive pronoun agree with the verb conjugation (both second person informal or formal)?

Thank you for any help, this is a wonderful language.
  • The cub

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    That's a common structure:
    Se= to him/to her
    la= the thing we're talking about

    You can rephrase it like this:
    Tú pusiste eso en bandeja de plata para él/para ella

    Sorry if the explanation is not as professional as you deserve, but take the next example:
    Imagine you have tried to tell me a lie, but I realize about it. So, I could say:
    Me la intentaste colar
    Me=to me
    la=that lie

    That's to say, you have tried to tell me a lie


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    American English
    shouldn't the reflexive pronoun agree with the verb conjugation
    It's not a reflexive pronoun. It's the indirect object pronoun.

    You're asking about the "function of pronouns," right? Just as English has its "Royal Order of Adverbs", Spanish has its "order of pronouns." Here's an explanation from

    The correct order can be remembered by the acronym RID (as in, "I need to get RID of this confusion about pronouns!") for reflexive, indirect, direct.

    All three pronouns can't appear together, but two can in the following combinations:
    • Reflexive-Indirect: Se me olvidó. ("I forgot." or literally "It forgot itself to me.")
    • Reflexive-Direct: Me lo pongo. ("I put it on.")
    • Indirect-Direct: Me lo dio. ("He gave it to me.")
    Also remember the la-la rule: if both pronouns start with the letter l, change the first pronoun to se.

    As to why it is how it is, I wasn't able to find anything. This is most likely part of the natural evolution of a language over time, as opposed to an instance of grammarians sitting down and deciding on a rule.

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    Thank you for the replies, this is completely clear to me now. For some reason I had fixated on it being reflexive instead of a having a direct and indirect object.